Parent-Child Communication Repair Kit
PRODiagnose toxic communication patterns using Gottman's Four Horsemen framework and repair damaged parent-child relationships with structured conversation scripts.
Example Usage
“My 11-year-old didn’t do his homework again. I started yelling about how he never listens and is so irresponsible. He just shut down, wouldn’t talk to me, went to his room. Now it’s been 3 hours and we’re barely speaking. What pattern is this and what do I do right now?”
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| Primary age group for tailoring language and examples | 9-12 | |
| The conversation focus area (school, chores, screen time, etc.) | general communication | |
| Which toxic pattern is currently active | undiagnosed | |
| Current state of trust/safety in relationship | moderate | |
| Whether situation is preventive or reactive | proactive |
Diagnose toxic communication patterns using Gottman’s Four Horsemen framework (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) and repair damaged parent-child relationships with structured conversation scripts tailored to your child’s age and specific family topics.
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- The Four Horsemen in the Parent Child Relationship Official Gottman Institute resource explaining how criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling manifest in parent-child dynamics
- Can We Fix This? Parent-Child Repair Processes and Preschoolers' Regulatory Skills NIH peer-reviewed research on dyadic repair processes and how successful repair predicts better child emotion regulation
- Everything Turns Into an Argument: How to Break the Pattern Gottman framework on how criticism triggers defensiveness cycles and practical strategies using soft startups
- Parent-Child Communication and Adolescents' Academic Performance Longitudinal research showing quality of parent-child communication directly correlates with academic achievement
- The Toxic Damage Of Stonewalling Practical explanation of stonewalling impacts on child development and validation techniques
- Parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Comprehensive guide to the NVC four-component model with parent-child examples
- Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns: Identifying Problematic Communication Identifies signs of dysfunction, power imbalances, and strategies for fostering open dialogue
- Conversation Starters for Kids, Tweens, Teens, and Adult Children Curated lists of age-appropriate conversation starters organized by topic
- Using Nonviolent Communication for Constructive Dialogue Between Divorced Parents Framework for using NVC principles in high-conflict family situations
- Family Verbal Violence Typology and Neurolinguistic Mechanisms of NVC Interventions Neuroscience research on how NVC interventions reverse psychological impacts through neural plasticity