First Date Vibe Check
PRONon-obvious red flag screening questions and behavioral observation framework to identify relationship compatibility, emotional maturity, and potential toxic patterns before becoming emotionally invested.
Example Usage
I have a first date this weekend with someone from a dating app. I’m looking for something serious and long-term. Give me a list of 8-10 non-obvious screening questions I can weave naturally into conversation that will help me assess their emotional maturity, attachment style, and whether they’re genuinely ready for commitment—without making it feel like I’m interviewing them. I want questions that reveal red flags like avoidance, unresolved trauma, or uncommitted energy.
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| Controls question intensity: light, moderate, or intensive screening | moderate | |
| Scale 1-10 for how strictly to interpret behaviors as red flags | 7 | |
| What I'm screening for: casual, long_term_serious, or marriage_focused | long_term_serious | |
| Whether to incorporate attachment style assessment questions | true | |
| Priority: attraction_first, values_first, character_led, or chemistry_first | character_led |
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- What are some subtle red flags on the first date? Community-sourced comprehensive list of behavioral red flags including phone obsession, impatience, poor manners, lack of follow-up communication
- Best questions to ask / things to learn about someone Detailed guidance on screening questions including attachment style, love languages, financial habits, relationship history patterns
- What's a green flag you've noticed on a first date? Positive indicators including asking questions, natural conversation flow, phone non-usage, laughter, listening skills
- What are first date red flags from online dating? Specific deception patterns, physical intimacy pressure, excessive ex-talk, negative gender generalizations
- What questions do you like to ask your date early on? Framework for identifying values alignment, emotional labor sharing, empathy levels
- How do you gauge someone's emotional intelligence? Techniques for assessing emotional maturity through questions about feelings vs. thoughts
- Conversation starters for assessing kindness and character Professional framework for character assessment by observing storytelling patterns and blame attribution
- What's the difference between love-bombing and genuine interest? Psychological distinction between excessive early attention with inconsistency vs steady, reliable interest
- Evaluating Attachment Style While Dating Specific questions and behavioral indicators to assess secure, anxious, avoidant attachment patterns
- How to find someone who is financially responsible? Conversational approaches to financial compatibility screening without invasive questions