Jealousy Reality Check
PRODiagnose whether my relationship anxiety stems from valid red flags or internal insecurity. Get fact-based analysis, gaslighting detection, and communication scripts.
Example Usage
“I need a Reality Check. My boyfriend got a text at 11 PM and turned his phone screen down immediately. I asked who it was, and he said ‘just work’ but didn’t show me. I’m freaking out thinking he’s cheating. Am I being paranoid or is this shady? We’ve been together 2 years, no history of cheating.”
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| The specific action that caused the jealousy (e.g., late text, hidden phone, liked photo) | partner_behavior | |
| User's attachment style if known (anxious, avoidant, secure, unknown) | unknown | |
| How long the relationship has lasted | unspecified | |
| Whether there has been confirmed infidelity in the past (true/false) | false | |
| Current emotional state on a 1-10 scale | 5 | |
| How the partner responded (defensive, reassuring, dismissive, unknown) | unknown |
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- Pathological Jealousy (Othello Syndrome) Indicators Clinical signs of delusional jealousy including accusatory patterns
- Lundy Bancroft's Red Flag List Checklist for identifying controlling or abusive behaviors
- Intuition vs. Trust Issues Discussion Somatic markers distinguishing calm knowing from urgent panic
- Retroactive Jealousy and CBT Treatment CBT fact-checking techniques for obsession with partner's past
- Common Cognitive Distortions in Relationships Mind Reading, Catastrophizing, and other distortions fueling jealousy
- Anxious Attachment Triggers Common triggers for anxious attachers including communication delays
- Gaslighting in Relationships Examples Concrete examples including denial, attack, and reversal tactics
- The Gottman Institute on Trust How trust is built in sliding door moments and fear of loss dynamics
- Polyamory and Managing Jealousy Normalizing jealousy as emotion rather than moral failing
- Insecurity vs Well-Grounded Suspicion Valid suspicion stems from evidence while insecurity resists reassurance