Partner Mental Load Auditor
PROIdentify and redistribute invisible household cognitive labor. CPE analysis (Conception-Planning-Execution), task ownership transfer protocols, and conflict-neutral scripts for fairer partnerships.
Example Usage
“My partner says they ‘help around the house’ all the time, but I’m still exhausted and feel like the household would fall apart without me constantly managing everything. I want to understand if I’m carrying all the ‘project manager’ work - the remembering, planning, and anticipating - while they just do what I ask. Help me audit who handles the Conception and Planning versus just the Execution of our household tasks.”
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| Granularity of the audit analysis | basic | |
| Type of household (couple, couple_with_kids, roommates, single_parent) | couple_with_kids | |
| Communication style (neutral, empathetic, direct) | neutral | |
| Main symptom driving the audit (burnout, resentment, nagging, forgetfulness) | burnout | |
| How often partners discuss household tasks (daily, weekly, monthly) | weekly |
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- Fair Play by Eve Rodsky Primary framework introducing CPE (Conception, Planning, Execution) and the concept of Unicorn Space for personal time
- You Should've Asked - The Mental Load Comic Viral visual explanation of the project manager dynamic in households that defines the problem for beginners
- Women Do More Cognitive Labor - HBR Academic validation and business terminology framing household management as legitimate work
- Cognitive Labor in American Sociological Review Seminal study by Allison Daminger identifying four stages: Anticipate, Identify, Decide, Monitor
- Sweepy App Practical example of gamifying and tracking effort points for household tasks
- She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink Viral article explaining how small ignored tasks signal lack of respect and partnership
- Tody Smarter Cleaning App Task management tool emphasizing frequency and needs over rigid schedules
- r/FairPlayLife Reddit Community Real-world discussions on challenges of implementing mental load audits with edge cases and pitfalls
- The Mental Load - Gottman Institute Psychological perspective on how unequal mental load erodes intimacy and trust