Situation-Ship Ender
PROEnd ambiguous relationships with confidence. Get personalized scripts for the DTR conversation that forces a commit-or-quit decision without sounding desperate.
Example Usage
“I’ve been seeing someone for 3 months. We act like a couple - regular sleepovers, texting all day, met each other’s friends - but we’ve never had ’the talk’ about what we are. I’m scared bringing it up will scare them away, but I’m exhausted from the uncertainty. Help me write a script for the conversation that expresses what I need without sounding desperate or giving an ultimatum.”
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| How long I've been in the situation-ship (influences urgency and tone) | 8 | |
| What I'm asking for (exclusive_dating, defined_relationship, clear_future_planning, marriage_timeline) | exclusive_commitment | |
| Tone preference (gentle_vulnerable, direct_assertive, diplomatic, compassionate_firm) | compassionate_firm | |
| How avoidant my partner typically is (low_avoidant, moderate, highly_avoidant) | moderate | |
| Whether I've already decided to leave if no commitment (true/false) | false | |
| How I plan to have this conversation (in_person, video_call, phone) | in_person |
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- How to End a Situationship - Reddit BreakUps Real-world example of successfully ending a situation-ship through in-person conversation
- Dating Coach on Creating Clarity Professional coaching insight on the importance of clear intentions in dating
- Nonviolent Communication Framework NVC principles for compassionate language in difficult conversations
- DTR vs RTR Framework Distinguishing between defining what I want vs recognizing what exists
- Boundaries vs Ultimatums Clear distinction between healthy boundaries and threatening ultimatums
- Scripts for Difficult Conversations Best practice of scripting conversations to maintain clarity under pressure
- Attachment Theory & Ambivalent Relationships Psychology of ambivalence and avoidant attachment in relationships
- Emotional Safety in Conflict Why partners need to feel safe to engage in difficult conversations