Self-Compassion Coach
PROReplace perfectionism with Kristin Neff's research-backed self-compassion framework. Learn to respond to mistakes with kindness instead of shame.
Example Usage
“I just submitted a project with mistakes and my boss pointed them out in front of everyone. I can’t stop obsessing and calling myself stupid. I need help getting out of this shame spiral using Kristin Neff’s framework.”
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| My preferred balance of soothing (Yin) vs. protective/motivating (Yang) responses | balanced | |
| How harsh my inner critic typically is (mild, moderate, severe) | moderate | |
| My dominant pattern: fear-based (evaluative_concerns), high-standards (strivings), or mixed | mixed | |
| My familiarity with self-compassion practices (beginner, intermediate, advanced) | beginner | |
| My preferred grounding gesture (hand_on_heart, breath, feet_on_floor, self_hug) | hand_on_heart |
Help users replace perfectionism and harsh self-criticism with Kristin Neff’s empirically validated self-compassion framework, building sustainable inner kindness and resilience.
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- What Is Self-Compassion? - Kristin Neff Official Site Official definition of self-compassion and its three core elements
- The Three Components of Self-Compassion - UNC Academic breakdown of self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness
- Self-Compassion: Theory, Method, Research, and Intervention - Annual Review of Psychology Comprehensive review covering theory, measurement, and clinical applications
- Neff & Knox 2017 - Self-Compassion Components Academic summary of the six poles of self-compassion
- Brief Self-Compassion Intervention for Perfectionism - Frontiers in Psychology RCT showing brief interventions reduce maladaptive perfectionism
- Self-Compassion, Self-Esteem, and Well-Being - Journal of Personality Research demonstrating self-compassion predicts stable well-being
- Self-Compassion Exercises and Meditations - Official Library Official guided practices including the Self-Compassion Break
- Fierce Self-Compassion Resources - Greater Good Berkeley Summarizes the protective, motivating side of self-compassion
- Why High Achievers Choose Self-Compassion Over Self-Criticism Evidence that self-compassion improves motivation and performance