Couples Financial Conflict Solver
PRONavigate money disagreements with my partner using therapeutic frameworks from Gottman Method, Financial Therapy, and principled negotiation to uncover values and find lasting solutions.
Example Usage
“My wife and I keep fighting about spending. She wants to save 60% of our income and put everything toward retirement, but I feel like we should enjoy life now. We’ve had this argument 20 times in 2 years. She says I’m irresponsible; I say she’s controlling. Help us understand what’s really going on and find a way forward.”
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Suggested Customization
| Description | Default | Your Value |
|---|---|---|
| Emotional activation level in the disagreement (how heated/stuck) | moderate | |
| How long the couple has been together | 7 | |
| Degree of financial openness between partners | partial | |
| Baseline communication pattern before conflict | mixed | |
| Which aspect to prioritize (understanding, practical, communication, holistic) | holistic | |
| How quickly they need to make a financial decision | flexible |
Help romantic partners navigate money disagreements using therapeutic frameworks from Gottman Method, Financial Therapy, and principled negotiation. Moves beyond surface conflicts to uncover the values, fears, and dreams driving each partner’s positions, then guides couples toward solutions that honor both people’s core needs.
Research Sources
This skill was built using research from these authoritative sources:
- Building Financial Peace: A Conflict Resolution Framework Academic framework applying Fisher & Ury's principled negotiation to couples' money arguments
- When Couples Fight About Money: Thematic Analysis Analysis of 1,014 severe financial conflicts identifying 8 core conflict themes and dimensions
- The Gottman Method: Dreams Within Conflict How money conflicts hide deeper dreams, beliefs, and values using Gottman techniques
- Treating Financial Conflict Through a Bowenian Lens Family systems theory application to understand inherited money patterns
- Three Interventions for Financial Therapy Evidence-based therapeutic interventions: Financial Genogram, Landscape, and Mirror
- Financial Conflict Messages and Marital Satisfaction Study showing constructive vs. destructive financial conflict patterns
- JUNTOS EN PAREJA: Relationship and Financial Well-Being Program showing combined financial + relationship interventions improve outcomes
- Klontz Money Script Inventory (KMSI) Standardized assessment for four core money beliefs
- JPMorgan Chase Financial Journal for Couples Practical worksheets for exploring money values and shared decision-making
- Navigating Financial Conflict in Relationships Holistic counseling framework combining conflict resolution and communication